Torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool.

A friend posted me this scenario. He likes this girl, we shall call her A. A is a wonderful young lady with a very pleasant disposition. She is very pretty and has the makings of a great mother. Now in the scenario, there is another young lady, B. B is more of the young working professional sort, who works hard and plays even harder. As pretty as A, though in a different way.


My friend has been pining for A for a few years. But never once did she seem to reciprocate his feelings, leaving him dejected and lonely. Left with nothing but dreams and hopes to hold on to. But B comes along and has somewhat developed a liking for my friend. Now my friend has no reason not to like B. But then again, does he have a reason to give up A?


Another friend tells him this. Sometimes we have to be selfish. There is no guarantee that A will ever reciprocate the feelings my friend has for her. Why keep hoping and wishing for something that will never come true? For B on the other hand, feelings can be nutured. And his conclusion is, to give up A, and begin a relationship with B.


I have given some thought to this, and hope I have thought up a good course of action. Whilst going for B might give instant gratification, making him feel like the king of the world, there is a possibility that those feelings will never come to be. Let's face the facts. You may be with B, but there will always a place in your heart pining for A. Though in no way being unfaithful to A, is that fair to B? I say it is not.


To love someone, is to do so whole heartedly. In a heart, there is only space for one person and there is no place for selfishness in love. No one should be made to feel like a second fiddle. In fact, no one should be treated as a second fiddle. If things with A do not turn out the way you would like that to, then you were never meant to be. But at least you were true to your heart.


I hope I have answered your questions, and that this has cleared your troubled heart.